|This write-up is an invitation to pause, to reflect and to widen one’s perspective. The intention is to include the different choices and level of consciousness and existence and to remember that we all belong.|
This photo was taken in August 2017 during my Mandela Washington Fellowship, in the company of my 24 fellows, we were seated in the Wren Building, the first building on the campus, built by African men and women. It was our graduation ceremony held by the Presidential Precinct, I was on the wait for my name to be called. In that moment, my entirety saw the unfolding of the men and women who came before us, those who played a key role in leading the way to this moment in time. It was no more about me, my achievements, and my life, it was no more about how special I was, it was recognizing the immensity that human beings are capable of, to include, to remember, to honor and to name the past exactly as it is and to relate here now with the intention of allowing an integrated future to unfold. I was fed my worth back into me.
Our dignity as human beings
In 2018, part of a sensitization campaign for homeless women held by Passerelle, I spent 3 hours on the streets in Port Louis and prior to that I was completely disguised by a team so I physically embodied a homeless woman. Two persons from the organizing team kept a close eye on me during these 3 hours. My experience as a homeless woman was in truth guarded and protected and I cannot and will not take ownership of a reality that is not mine.
For 3 hours, I was mocked, taunted, shamed, and reminded by people passing by that I must have done bad things to have ended on the street, that my life was not a life of quality and dignity. That day I realized how we confuse humans’ actions with worthiness and dignity.
Two weeks later, I embarked on a project with ENL foundation for the women of Bazart Kreasion, I met and sat in circles with a group of women who were previously on the streets and they were then in a half-way home. The biggest challenge for these women was to sit in togetherness with other women, their perceptions of themselves and how they perceived other women were perceiving them. Their reactions were visceral, nausea, headaches, shivers, tremor just by landing in a safe space in the company of what they called “women with dignity”.
One repeated conversation that came from the women who have been on streets was “their dignity”, the belief that they would have to work, to build and buy their human dignity. Believing that “I have to buy my dignity in eyes of society” is a limited belief that hinders the flow of life and it is a belief has been running in our societies for generations.
Truth is, “our dignity remains untouched regardless of our actions.” Our inherent, absolute and final worth and value do not depend on any actions or external success. Try buying your dignity, you will employ your energy against yourself attempting to reach some place out there that does not exist, because you are your dignity embodied breathing, moving and alive.
As humans we will take actions that will limit us, mess our life, and impact people directly and indirectly. Still none of these say that “I am unworthy.” To be human means I am born with my inherent, absolute, and final value and this is enough.
In my work and walk, I meet women and men who are struggling to buy themselves back into worthiness, appreciation, and inclusion and this is unnatural to our nature. There is no such thing as unworthy, unneeded in nature except to the judgements of the human mind. There is no buying back of worthiness, there is instead a constant upgrading of our inner world, our beliefs, our values, our memories, our references and much more.
As we upgrade internally, we experience the rippling in the external world. There comes a point for the sanity of our life, we have to learn to separate and distinguish behavior identity/roles and the human being.
On this journey of growth, we will be called to move beyond our actions of past, it will ask of us meeting ourselves and others exactly as we are, to agree to who and what we are and what we did, it is through this meeting beyond our ideas or wrong or right we are able to take ownership of our inner powers and step into our worthiness.
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May we remember to go back in times to gather treasures that have been on the wait for us.
Love from my heart to yours
#MeghaVenketasamy #EmpoweredLiving #Coach #CircleFacilitator #SystemicFamilyConstellations
"How did you find out that this what you are meant to do?"
I am often asked this question. I found nada.
As young as I remember I have been driven by the need to grow,to learn. I have had this inner world infused in learning, discoveries and this kept me going.
Younger, it was challenging for me to relate, to engage with people, I could not have a proper conversation without mixing up my words.
I leaned on everything I was drawn to and I learned. Learning was also my coping strategy,it was my way to ensure that I belonged. I learned how I was holding myself back, protecting myself as a child in an adult's body, I learned that as an adult I have resources, I have choices and it was within my response-abilities to rewrite new memories in my inner world.
On the way, I learned to relate with myself and people and the world and that's when my life within began unleashing. My need to grow was met with my need for love and connecting and contributing , this is a powerful combo that I am in awe of. My biggest learning is that of learning and leaning onto each other, onto life around us, this is exactly what makes us equal.
This is part of who I am,what I love, what I keep growing into and what I will keep loving.
This image was taken in 2017 @Morven Presidential Precinct , Virginia during Mandela Washington 2017 Fellowship - it was intentionally taken out of my awareness cus my team understood that I was not yet in comfort of being seen. I learn from this younger version of me.
Are you aware of your driver needs? What needs are not being met?
I journey with you,I know this a blessed moment in relating, we will grow, we will learn,we will lean onto each other and we will love and this is exactly what makes us equal.
Love from my heart to your heart
#MeghaVenketasamy #EmpoweredLiving #Coach #CircleFaciltator #SystemicFamilyConstellations #TraumaInformed
When the body screams unsafe
My childhood and teenage years were loaded with domestic violence. I was not hit nor bullied but witness to acute violence at home. I know we are many who have been there and many who are still there in such spaces.
Our nervous has been intelligently designed to serve our survival. My nervous system intelligently served me by keeping me in the survival mode for years.
I have lived with unexplained anxiety, fears, sense of “something bad is about to happen”, unable to discern “safe and danger”. In my teenage years I would mount guard at night to ensure that nothing happen to my mother.
This kept the looping of danger on in my body. I oscillated between hyperarousal to hypo-arousal, being drained most of the time.
From the age of 14 to 19 I barely slept, I would watch out at night. I was not only living in danger but in a space of life danger. This led me to suffering from acute rhinitis allergies for years. I lost the curls of my hair at the age of 17years.
I went into relationships with this looping of danger. I have spent at least 35years of my life scanning the environment for whatever seems and looks like unsame for being unsame meant danger. One of my core beliefs was “the world is a dangerous place.”
What happens with such beliefs, “you struggle to trust people, low discernment, anxiety peaks, and so much more.” And the list of illnesses that show up in the body is unexplainable, high blood cholesterol, allergies, low immunity, chronic pain, chronic digestive issues, depression, sleepness. I have a list that I could name for myself.
Have you ever went to bed with heat running along your body and your head and no one can explained why?
Do you feel nausea often and for no reasons?
Do you feel easily offended and scared if people do not respond to you?
Do you live with unexplained anxiety?
Do you struggle with digestive issues?
Do you wake tired?
Do you struggle with a poor sleep quality?
And I know as you read this, you see yourself and part of your story unfolding here.
Our nervous works in service of our survival, however when we are unable to move out of the loop of danger into safety to connect and rest, life inside our body becomes dysregulated.
No matter how much talking therapy we do, something stays unmet.
The gathered energy of the past remains unprocessed. A state that began in the body is now held as beliefs in the mind. The body is stuck in the past and as result, cognitively we are stuck with negative stacking. Appreciating life, maintaining hope, lifting one’s state and much more become daily struggles.
Countless times, I gave up on people, on relationships out of deep fear. Yet something in my system never gave up. We are biologically wired to relate and to connect with one another. And no matter what we do, there will be always be an internal kick from our nervous system to seek this connecting, this relating with others.
I know you know this same looping. I know you are many to relate.
We hack this loop by shifting our state.
This has been my personal work and commitment for some years now. Finding safety in my body, in my internal environment, in my experiences no matter how uncomfortable they could be.
I offer what I have experienced. I work with you from an experiential space with the knowingness that our life differs yet danger, life threats and safety feel same inside without the barriers of words.
This is the foundation of my work, held in safety and I hold in safety.
Meet either in one-on-one session in coaching, co-regulation works, systemic works or in groups for my trauma-informed yoga classes.
Looking forward to meeting you and in togetherness we find safety inside outside.
Looking forward to be in service this year.
Here’s a brief to what I am offering this year in addition to my existing services.
In beauty and kindness.
Megha Venketasamy
|WHAT HAPPENS WHEN A CHILD TAKES SIDE NEXT TO ONE OF THEIR PARENTS? |
|These words are an invitation to pause, to receive, to allow oneself to be touched and to be informed. The pronouns used are not limited to anyone’s personal use of pronouns, an invitation to move beyond the personal pronouns used.|
When a child takes side next to one of his/her parents, the child out of the bestest intention has decided who is wrong and who is right.
When a child does this, that child starts a journey where he/she ongoingly will outwardsly negate and eject the other parent.
I took my mother’s side as early as I can remember. Witness to the chaotic and violent relating of my parents, early on, in the purest of love and intention, I decided that my mother, the victim was the right one and my father was the wrong one.
Ask any child, they will say that early on, it became unbearable for them to see their parents suffer. A both conscious and unconscious movement happens inside us, that takes us next to the parent being victimized and in so doing, we shun away the parent we have identified as the perpetrator.
What we shun away, especially parents, we then become blind to. When we shun away parents, we shun away an important part of ourselves, we shun away half of us. What we shun away is what we will spend a life looking for, aching for and longing for.
I have spent years looking for me, never understanding that in the purest of love and bestest of intention and also as an act of survival, I have decided early on to side by my mother and shun away my father.
Maybe these words resonate with you. Maybe early, you have been torn between your parents, and you took on a role that was never yours that of siding, deciding and judging wrongness and rightness.
While I say this, I do not condone acts of violence. I am not even speaking of forgiving. There are greater dynamics at play and I believe that is up to us, adults to take ownership of our actions and bear the consequences of our actions.
Through the systemic lenses and the work of systemic family constellation, the unseen comes to light, the unconscious patterns show up. One of the basic needs of any child is belonging and belonging ensures survival. As a child, I understood this, you understand this and so will all children yet to come. My survival as a child depends on my belonging to my parents. Any child is symbiotically connected to the mother and for the mother, we will give up much, for the mother we will take on much.
If you have reached so far, I invite you to pause and breathe along me.
Maybe these words evoke untouched memories in you, let them rise, knowing that there is no need to indulge and least analyze it all.
We side by one of our parents not only in instances of chaos and violence. We side by the parent that we identify as weak and in need of protection. We also side by the parent that we identify as worthy and intelligent and capable. We side by one of our parents because we have been explicitly asked to. There is much more to all of this.
What happens when we took side?
We shut down half of us. This is one the greatest act of self-violence. Biologically, energetically, systemically, it took two to conceive “one” and shutting one half is closing off the valves of vital lifeforce, creativity, abundance, gifts and so much more. Then, we spend our life looking for something that is missing. The missing is the other half of us, one of our parents. We spend our life looking for that something in people around us, in relationships, through addictive behaviors, through power and so much more.
We rarely says to our child that “both your father/mother and I , are equally important. You carry us both inside. We are both equally worthy. Regardless, of our relationship dynamics, it is only up to us to find our way through, we are adults and you are our child.”
Take some time and imagine your parents saying these words to you
“Our relationship dynamics is only up to us to figure out, we are adults and you are our beloved child. You belong with us both and we both belong with you.”
On this journey of wholeness, I am learning that my wholeness rests in taking in fully my parents beyond the cognitive ideas of wrongness and rightness. My sense of life and purpose recalibrates with this movement, a lifelong movement. A movement that cannot be rushed through. A constant reminder that life came to me at the price that it costs my parents to birth me. There is nothing greater than this on earth.
“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing,
there is a field. I’ll meet you there.
When the soul lies down in that grass,
the world is too full to talk about.
Ideas, language, even the phrase ‘each other’
doesn’t make any sense.”
~ Jalawudin Rumi, Out Beyond Ideas
Take great care of yourself. Lavish yourself with kindness
Stay rooted in the company of each other
Love from my heart to yours
Love from my body to yours
Love from my nervous system to yours
Love from my womb to you
#MeghaVenketasamy #Coach #CircleFacilitator #SystemicFamilyConstellation
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|ON MISSING|
|This write-up invites you to pause, to receive and to reflect. We look into the word, the verb and the experience of “missing”. There are different lenses through which to explore this topic and it is explored in through specific lenses here. This may or may not resonate with you.|
What does it mean to miss someone/something/someplace?
I don’t know what it means to you and for you. I have no idea how you define missing and what you do when you miss.
“To miss” means whatever meaning you are giving in your mind.
Some have this image of pain, sadness, hurt connected to missing and these are to be avoided at all cost. Others have this image of sweet remembrance, a nectar to be indulged in whenever it is offered to them.
What does “to miss” mean to you? How do you use the verb “miss”? What meaning are you giving “to miss” in your mind?
What value does “to miss” hold in your life?
I sit in conversations with women and men, it is intriguely interesting how we are many to shrink at the experience of missing a loved one, a colleague, an old home, a country, a child, a parent, an old lover and so much more.
I am more and more becoming present of how “missing” is shunned and even shamed. Some say to miss is a negative or energy draining or disempowering movement. Some say to miss is to mean that I am not living a connected life.
All I know is that we are humans and the beauty of being human is our biological imperative and nature to connect, to bond, to create and to meet each other.
We cannot not miss people we have been with, people we have parted ways with, people who have left this world, our old homes, our colleagues, our pets, our cars and so much more.
When someone leaves our space or when we leave someone, some place, the movement is visceral, it is not just in our mind or heart that we experience this lost or parting or departing, it is in the nervous system. Suddenly what was used to, is no more or has changed shape and form. So we cannot not struggle, pain, tear and cry. It does not make of us clingy or sick or depressed. It is an internal experience where we are kicked into a sudden change in the body’s chemistry at all levels. A change that asked to be cared for and taken care of you. A change that asks of deep kindness and gentleness as we transit from “what was” to “what is”.
It is normal. It is beautifully normal to miss.
It is impossible to not miss and to not grief in this process.
Missing and allowing oneself to move into the experience of “missing whatever it is” is not dysfunctional and least disempowering. On the other hand, what causes dysfunctional is numbing the experience of missing whenever it shows up.
What we numb stays frozen, to freeze part of our internal world asks of ongoing investment of our internal energy and resources and this not only limit our access to energy for our day to day life but also to ability to create, to connect, to bond and to life. This numbing keeps the autonomic nervous system in survival mode. This survival is intelligently designed to survive and connection is not it’s priority.
To miss is the beauty of being human. To miss is the reminder that I have opened, I have met, I was met and through this meeting a part of me was birthed and now, I miss that which has served this part of me.
If you are missing someone here now, a lover, a mother, a friend, a pet, a colleague, may you find inside and outside the support and the holding while you move through this experience.
The discomfort is not about missing but rather the lack of internal and external intelligence, guidance, understanding and support to hold oneself as one misses when and as.
Our beliefs, our perceptions, our memories, our ideas, our ideals, our identities and so much more impact on our experience of “missing whatever it is”.
So miss as hard you miss. While we miss, may we be reminded that there is no wrongness or rightness to this experience, what impacts our experience are our personal judgements. The need to find safety in our experience of missing is what asks to be met.
To love, to connect is to also open to the doors of missing.
The sweetness of aching reminder of what matters most in life.
Love from my heart to yours
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|ON ANCESTRAL HEALING| WHO DO WE HEAL?
|An invitation to pause and to become present, through this presence to become aware of your experience and where these words lead you to. Remember it is only up to you to find that which you will recall yours.|
These past five years, I have sat in at least ten different ancestral healing sessions with different teachers and modalities. I went in with the intention to heal my ancestors. What to heal? Who to heal? How to heal?
I was out to heal my ancestors. I went in with the intention to continue the sorting and fixing of what keep showing up as dysfunctional, hindrances, blockages and leakages in my experiences and perceptions of life. I would bring the stories of my ancestry along and I would feel the pain of those who came before me and, in my innocence, I believed that it was up to me to do something about this pain, the trauma, the wounds, the rapes, the injustice experienced and so much more.
Maybe you are in such phase too. Maybe you are curious.
HEAR MY WORDS : I am in phase of my apprentice as a constellation facilitator and soon I will be offering family constellation services in Mauritius, here’s what I have learned and still learning through, within, inside and along this phenomenal journey that I am on.
We do not heal our ancestors. We do not heal anyone.
Then what do we do?
We learn to see our ancestors, to begin with our biological parents for what they are beyond our ideas of right and wrong. We see greatness in those who came before us. We see our ancestors beyond our ideas of their trauma, their stories, their successes and failures.
What do we see? Who do we see?
We see the ones that were left behind, we see the dead, we see the hidden, we see the excluded, we see the murdered, we see the murderers, we see the victims, we see the perpetrators, we see those who are alive, we see those with whom we are in relating and in conflicts. We see them all and we give them an equal place.
Through this act of seeing and including, we all begin to ease and relax, then we start to experience the flow of love. Life came to us through a line and life is possible because of those who came before us.
There is greatness in our ancestors beyond our ideas of trauma, wrong, right, good and bad.
We see greatness of our ancestors.
What happens through this act of seeing?
By seeing, we include. We include “whatever it is” that was unseen, unmet, unheld, unembraced. Through this process of including, we become part of a bigger whole. We begin the process of gathering ourselves.
What are we gathering?
We are gathering parts and parcels of our autonomic nervous system back. We are gathering our autonomic power from within the collective autonomic nervous system. We are gathering the energy invested intelligently in survival for years and generations and now, this energy is ready for life for us.
It is presumptuous to believe that we can set on a journey to heal our ancestors.
We do not heal our ancestors. We cannot undo the past and we cannot rewrite history. Through the openings that are offered with the acts of seeing and including, we are offered spaces to receive different glimpses and perceptions of the past, of our ancestors. we begin to see the greatness, the togetherness, the love, the life in them.
For whom are ancestral rituals carried through?
For both our ancestors and for us. An act of remembering and agreeing to life as life came to us. An act of prayers for ourselves, may our lives be lived as new, for beyond our cognitions and beliefs, such is the wish of ancestors, that “the lives of their future generations be lived as new”.
We pause to remember and honor those who came before us, to begin with our parents. We pause to remember and honor beyond our ideas of wrong and right.
For many, these words will show up as resistance.
How can I honor him/her/them after what happened? If these words resonate for you, know that this is a place of love offered to you to look within, to meet that which you are holding on to, entangled with, judge to and loyal to.
There is much to say, I leave it here for me, you and us.
May we remember that in the unfolding of life, our ancestors are elders and it is not in the scheme of life for younger ones to fix the elders. The elders be and the younger ones find their way through life in honor and reverence.
The unfolding of newness comes to us through this act of seeing and including.
In honor of those who came before.
Love from my heart to yours
Love from my nervous system to yours
Love from my body to yours
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|What I live through inside as went through divorce and the years that followed|
|These words for are anyone going through a divorce, an end of a relationship. Take these words as invitations to pause, to rest, to receive, to hold and to be held. My words are not absolute truth, find what resonate with and within you. Know that I am holding me, you and us as we breathe, move and ease through the words.|
Ten years ago, filing for divorce was my decision and it came after months of weighing and internal muscle building. It came after one year having understood that what I was holding on was no more nurturing and instead I was being sucked out of life.
Back then, I naively thought that once the divorce process was through, I would ease, I would breathe and I would live. And nothing readied me for what I went through inside.
Maybe these words resonate with you. Maybe you thought same. Maybe you thought and believed that once divorce was through, you would ease, breathe and live and this is not in the happening.
I hear you. I see you. I feel you. I hold space for you.
Sharing glimpses of what I went through and what I have learned through the process, knowing that there are many who will resonate with these words, there are many who moving through such process and may these words reach your heart, your mind and your body.
1.Vacillating with my decision
For months, despite my knowingness that I made the right choice for me, I vacillated between doubts and “maybe I should return, maybe things were not as bad as I imagined and believed them to be.” For months, I have found myself wondering whether something was wrong with me, how bad I was as a person and why I was unable to make this relationship work.
This went on for months. I have never spoken to anyone about this, not even my sister. For months, I have had those heightened moments of “questioning my decision”.
I have learned:
I have learned that this is normal. I have learned that my perceptions, memories, identities and beliefs about success, relationships and failures came in the way. It took me years to understand that this was no failure. This was my beginning of intentional living, choosing for myself to begin with my beliefs. I was starting to learn to validate my choices and live with the consequences of my choices. This is growth, this is adulthood, this is maturity and this is emotional and cognitive intelligence in the happening.
As young as I can remember, I have fought to live life my way and when it happened, it was overwhelming for me, nothing readied me to live life with my choices and to validate myself.
2.Ungrounded
I was lost. I had no focal points. It was no more clear to me, who I was, what I was supposed to do, be and where I was supposed to go. Instead of having an easy life, things toughen for me. I had little clarity except that I made a choice which was supposed to ease my life and instead I was going through never ending daily internal bad drama.
I have learned:
The end of any relationship brings an end to identifies, roles, relating, communicating and being connected to that relationship. And this is death and this is overwhelming, confusing and painful. Who I was in that relationship was to be put to rest and it was this part of me that did not where to go and what to do. It was part of my brain that was wired into being and doing. It was my nervous system, the internal chemistry of my body that suddenly were at a lost. I had spent nine years of my life doing and being in certain ways in that relationship. It is absolutely normal to be mind-fogged when relationships come to an end. I have learned that to meet my future, I was called to be and do someone else. I have learned that I was not mad, least depressed, I was growing and growth is ugly, challenging and tearing and tearful. I was grieving a relationship. This grief was and is to be held sacred. I have learned no matter the quality of the relationship, grief also shows up in the end and this is part of the cycle of life.
3. Stressful state
I have lived for years in a stressful state, chemically my body was used to being in that stressful state. I was addicted to being stressed. I would spend my time scanning the environment for dangers. I have lived as mis-matcher for years, every difference meant danger. I would use my imagination to craft some of the most horrifying stories of a future. I was in constant future catastrophizing. One tiny mishap and I would come up with a story of a scary magnitude. As I write these words, I am grateful that none of what I imagined came true.
I have learned:
My body’s internal chemistry had taken over. I was living a life where I was unable to think greater than what I was feeling. My mind was no more in control. My body longed for the stress, for the fight, for the dangers, for the fears, for these were my familiar. I know as I write these words, you are many who will resonate with me.
Unable to think greater than how I feel means I am living in the past. The past is known, the past is familiar and it took me years to understand this mentally and physiologically. My body is intricately intelligent and it served me to survive for years. It took ongoing willpower and daily practice “All is well. I can live. I can dream. I can ease.” It took the company of people to find ease and trust in my body back and only from that space I was able to start regulating myself.
4. Struggling with future pacing
I have struggled to envision a future. I thought that I had figured it out the day I decided for myself, however, on the way, my life was more of a chaotic mess.
I have learned:
When we begin the path of intentional living, we start rewiring our internal system, from our thoughts, to our beliefs, to our values, to our internal body chemistry and this rewiring reverberates externally. Rewiring can be challenging, confusing, physically-emotionally-mentally-energetically-spiritually painful. Rewiring can also be joyful, exciting, breathing, expansion, releasing, laughter. Rewiring is in truth a nuanced experienced of comfort and dis-comfort. To be in future with my vision means that there a new version of me. I have learned that it is childish thinking to believe that a choice is enough to change my life. Every choice is led and supported by ongoing choices. Choosing to live my life intentionally means daily steps, actions, thoughts, choices, words, language that take me towards that vision. This is called alignment. Aligning my actions, my words, my steps, my thoughts, my language and so much more with my choice of intentional living. I have learned that it is a daily choice to choose myself, to care for myself, to look after myself and to look up to myself.
5.Healing has a language
I have wanted to rush through healing. I shoved away memories and emotions that would rise. I have taken on responsibilities that did not belong to me. I thought that doing my work meant that I had to be healed.
I have learned:
I have learned that just because I had experienced pain, does not mean that I am broken and no more whole. I have experienced tremendous pain and none of this means that I am broken. I still have so many parts of me fragmented and held in numbness so that I could and I can survive. I am still learning to tend to those parts of myself. I am whole, this I know and I believe. I have learned that healing has a language. Healing has a language of wholeness. Healing has a language of response-abilities and accountability. I have learned to take ownership of my response-abilities and to foster, to nurture my response-abilities – my thoughts, my feelings, my actions and my language. I have learned to hold myself accountable for my thoughts, my feelings, my actions and my language in deep kindness and tenderness.
Today as I look at this part of my life, I know it could not have been otherwise, I had such an internal world that I attracted a man who fitted and played the perfect role. In essence, it was a perfect match. I do not condone what I have lived through, instead, I hold myself in deep esteem for being here now and seeing life through different lenses.
This is what healing is, to have a change in vision, in hearing, in touch, in taste, in the chemistry of the body.
Wherever you are, however you are, whyever you are, whoever you are, whenever you are, know that there are endless possibilities to grow, to think bigger than your current feeling. Know that it takes daily choice to keep choosing yourself. There will be days when you will hate yourself. There will be days when you will run away. There will days when you will decide to shove everything aside. All these movements are part of the process of rewiring. Cry, drag yourself and crawl if you have to. Beg to yourself, beg to life and when you are calmer, rise up and use those moments of calmness to think greater than what you feel, even if it lasts for a couple of minutes, this will suffice to usher you forward.
Keep choosing yourself. Your act is important. Your rise is the call for us all to move home to ourselves. Through this walk may you be reminded that this is a unique walk and often those living within the shackles of veils will not understand you.
Love from my heart to yours
Love from my nervous system to yours
Love from my body to yours
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Returning to my parents' home
|This post is for anyone who is between homes and who has had to return to their parents’ home in the peak of their adulthood. The intention of this post to invite reflection, to question and to wonder “what?”|
Ten years ago when I filed for divorce, my parents’ home was the only option that I was left with. I could not afford to rent and I would have done anything not to return to my parents’ home.
At 30 I felt like a failure, years of study and working and I had nothing to call mine or my own. Divorce was not hard on me, I was hard on me. I wished to be swallowed and to disappear. Returning to my parents’ home was hard for me; my thinking, my beliefs about what it meant to be successful, what empowered women were and should do did not ease life for me.
I believed that being on my own would have helped me thrive and I struggled for years because of this belief.
I struggled for years to be at peace with being at my parents’ home. I did not know how to ask for help and I was hostile to receiving support and help. Back then, I believed that growing through this phase meant doing it on my own.
Maybe as you read these words, they may resonate with you. Perhaps for you, it’s a change in job, a transition between countries, a situation within the family that asks of your presence and support and much more.
Perhaps you are in a phase where you had rather be anywhere but at your parents’ home.
We live in world that teach children that growing up means going away from home and if you ever return home then something is wrong with you. We live in world where we are taught to believe that one’s power can only be owned outside one’s home and hardly inside in the presence of one’s parents.
Here is what I have learned through these ten years and may these words find their way to mind, heart, body and nervous system bringing you solace and ease.
1. In the company of my own is where I started healing.
Growing, healing, rewiring of one’s brain happen in the company of people. On our own, we are limited, we stay within the comfort of our comfort zone and nothing much happens in one’s comfort zone. It asked of me great courage to say “yes” to help and support. It took me years to open up on what I had lived and went through. In the company of people I have learned the beauty of relating and bonding.
Being surrounded by people is crucial for our nervous system. Being surrounded by people supports us especially through anxiety and panic attacks.
These past ten years I have received in ways that I did not know was possible. I have learned and I am still learning to trust myself to receive, to ask and when to say “no” and “yes”.
I do not intend to glorify this process. There has been years of unlearning, of attuning, of aligning and of reparation and it is an ongoing process
As I say these words, I hold space for many for whom home has been and remains unsafe.
2.My beliefs were out to haunt me
My beliefs toughen life for me. What I thought should be and ought to be and what I fought against because they were conflicting with my internal rules about life, about being a single woman, about being at my parents’ home in my adulthood.
I was hunting myself every day. I made up stories and I believed in them.
I decided that I knew who liked me and who did not like me. I decided that I could tell what people were saying about me.
I dimmed myself in my village. If I could, I would have erased my existence, so people would forget who I was and here I was.
It was not until I realized that no one is out to get me and we are busy with our lives. My judgements severe me from life and no one else and nothing else.
3. Allowing my mother to be mother
Our parents are elder to us and it is their role to worry and to be concerned for us. For years, I have heaved at hiding my pain and sadness for I least wanted to trigger concern and worry. Little did I understood that being a parent to your child meant being part of the life of your child fully.
For years, I held back, I never showed that I was depressed, burn out and neither did I ever cried in front of my mother. Until the day I started saying “I am not well”, my words hit my mother and me by surprise.
I have learned to be humbled by the fact that my personality and my mother’s personality may never meet in alignment and still there is undeniable love, care and concern for each other.
The day, I allowed my mother to be witness to my life, that day onward, I took ownership of my life unlike before. By allowing my mother inside, I got sucked back into life through life with life.
It was no more about what we believed differently rather what we share in common. We share the same body.
Allowing my mother to witness my life does not mean to allow her to plan my life. It asked of me great courage to plan my life within the walls of my parents’ home.
Growing up means exactly it !
4. Success
I have redefined success for me over the years. There is nothing to succeed and there is nothing to win over.
How much of a success I feel of and about myself?
This is a question that I am unable to answer and I do not feel the need to.
There is so much pressure on what it means to be successful as a woman, as a man, as a human. These beliefs and expectations haunted me for years.
I am still living at my parents’ home and life has never been fulfilling and receiving at it is here now. I don’t have a car. I don’t have a child either.
I am nearing my forty’s and I am self-employed with all the bounties, the risks and the challenges that come along.
I have birthed magnanimous projects in my childhood room and the walls whisper my unfolding, stories of growth, transformation, humility, fears, tears, simplicity and so much more.
Success is not something that I thrive for. Fulfillment is my aim.
Success has nothing to do with what others say of and say of.
Whose idea of success are you living?
Even if you say it is yours, then who are you modelling?
Wherever you are, however you feel, whatever you think and believe, know that here now is the place to start, regardless of your perceptions of available resources and/or stressors.
It takes going back to one’s roots to be able to reach further in life. It takes a community and support of each other to grow in life. It takes an entire life to learn to receive and to give within the ebbs and flows of one’s heart.
Love from my heart to yours
Love from my body to yours
Love from my nervous system to yours
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The Importance of Relational Support
Movements in life challenge all of us depending on our state of internal resilience. By resilience, I refer to the perception or reality of resources exceeding stressors. We will all move through phases where our stressors will exceed our internal and external resources.
Movements such as the end of a relationship, death, transiting through jobs and countries, among others, usher it’s share of intensity and overwhelming. One of the needs that has to be met is centering through the grounded presence of fellow humans. The need to feel safe here now and this need can only be met in company of fellow humans.
Our nervous system needs support and this support comes from another human. We call this relational support. Needing and wanting to be surrounded by people is a healthy response to our day-to-day life especially in challenging moments.
I see amazing women and men struggling to make it through on their own.
Dis-serving beliefs
“I am to make it on my own. I have to make it on my own. And if I need someone to lean on, then something is wrong with me!”
We have never been on our own. We have been surrounded from the beginning of our lives. Learning to manage one’s emotions, thoughts and states comes from internal resilience and this resilience can be learned, built, enhanced and maintained throughout our lives. Resilience is built in the company of other nervous systems, other fellow humans and our pets. The brain is rewired in the company of other nervous systems.
We speak so much of individualism yet we are failing at seeing the importance of our nervous system in each other’s lives.
As you read through my words, you are also reading through my nervous system state here and now. When I facilitate my sessions, whether I am coaching or teaching a yoga class, I am aware of how my presence, my nervous system, my breathing and my unspoken beliefs can either create a safe space for myself and others or create unsafety.
The process of state management starts with managing our states in the company of another grounded presence that help us digest the intensity of our experience. This process happens daily unconsciously and we are many to have awareness that this person or those persons “make me feel grounded, calm, centered, gathered and I see clearer.”
In coaching and in other related practices, practitioners use tools in supporting seekers, learners and clients to manage their states without necessarily making mention of same.
In my work as a coach , a facilitator and a yoga teacher, I am humbled with the essence of how we humans are crucial in each other’s lives. I keep learning how my presence impacts others and how others impact my nervous system.
This movement is called neuroception, a term coined by Dr. Stephen Porges. It is beyond the intellect and the grasp of our prefrontal cortex. The intelligence of our nervous system in reading cues of safety, danger, groundedness, centeredness and much more.
When we step up to support another person to digest the intensity of that which he/she is experiencing, we are in truth helping that person to regulate their internal state from the core of our nervous system. This act is called relational support, beyond our ideas of wrong or right and being present for being present and not rushing through the other to shift state. In this essence, a relational environment is crucial for all of us especially through navigating through the waves of rising trauma and challenges.
An environment where we are able to and we learn to relate with ourselves and others through the support of fellow humans. We are communal beings. Our biology is wired to connect. Growth, expansion as much as decline and death are naturally designed to happen in company of each other, connected and in relational.
To surrender to the truth that we need each other is what eases life.
To give in to the need of being held, embraced, met, heard and received by and through someone else is what offers us possibilities of expansion.
To bow down to the meeting, greeting and dancing of our nervous system is what ushers spaces for resilience.
May I, You and Us soften in the meeting of each other.
May I, You and Us soften in the company of each other
May May I, You and Us soften and hear the intelligence of our nervous system and bodies.
Love from my heart to yours
Love from my body to yours
Love from my nervous system to yours
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We come from the Womb
We are many to still question and wonder about women’s movements, women empowerment, women’s choices, women’s lives, women’s bodies and so much more.
I could rattle for hours about why and how shunning half of the world’s population is utter foolishness. I could speak of global figures about violence, trafficking, wars, mutilation. I could bring forth the little history that I have learned, heard and witnessed.
Above and beyond the facts, we have little if not no understanding of what it means and what it implies to come onto earth and to be born as humans. It means that we came from the womb and those yet to come, will come from the womb.
We all came from women. We gestated, we were held, nourished, guarded inside the womb within women’s body.
What happens in the womb and it’s peripheric environment has a direct impact on our development, on our nervous system and on our life out of the womb. What happens outside the womb and the body impacts the womb. We are living and breathing in interconnectedness. What is embedded and imprinted in the womb and it’s peripheric environment has a direct impact on life gestating inside. The present is shaped inside the womb and the future is wired through what was initially seeded inside the womb.
Through the trauma-informed lenses, we are learning how our DNA are marked each time something significant happened and these markers are carried across generations and they impact how we grow, connect, protect and relate as humans.
We are not speaking merely of physical development but brain development and the nervous system wiring and tuning. We are by default biologically wired to connect, however, trauma switches the protect mode on.
When women are ongoingly subjected to danger, fear, torture of all forms, their bodies, their wombs and their nervous system become wired to seek, fight and/or protect from danger. These wiring are transferred to the next generations onward. Through systemic family constellation, epigenetics, neuro-science, we are slowly becoming present to how a fetus is symbiotically interlinked with the mother’s trauma.
At 5 months old when my mother was gestating in her mother’s womb, I was already in my mother’s body as one of 1-2 million eggs. What my grandmother experienced and lived through, my mother absorbed it and so did I.
Can you imagine the immensity of life’s interconnectedness?
Across generations elders have had a reminder for pregnant women “keep her happy”. The health of our future generation dwells within wombs.
Pause and gauge your life.
What challenges have you met with? What are your tendencies? Does connecting or protecting comes easily to you? Are you struggling or have you struggled with anxiety or depression or panic attacks or immune-system dis-eases?
World’s health depends on the health of wombs. I am not negating nor lessening the role of men in the process of creation. Men come from wombs.
Where is safety for women in this world?
What does it mean to be safe?
Where do you experience safe?
How do you experience safe?
We all come from the womb unless until we start wondering about safe, safety and moving towards respecting the womb, all our laws of equality will remain fixes that will never reach human consciousness.
This movement of reverence of wombs, we will move in reverence of women, of boundaries, of safety, of life of all forms and of nature.
There is a call for a different quality of work, where we begin to walk the path of meeting everything that moves us to harm, to kill, to shun, to exclude wombs and women from our lives. There is a call to move towards safe and safety inside us and outside.
We all come from the womb. We will keep coming from the womb.
Bowing down to the lineage of wombs on this International Women Day
In honor and reverence of the lineage of wombs that have carried life across generations at a price.
Love from my hearts to yours
Love from my womb to you
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My vagina’s ecosystem
|This write-up is an invitation to pause, to breathe, to receive, to reflect and to find resonance within you whether you are a woman, a man or however you define and identify yourself as. I use the word Vagina here connected to women who are biologically born with a Vagina and at the same time, I hold space and hold sacred and honor humans who identify themselves as women regardless of the biological vagina.
This February 2022, I navigated with the She Stands Tall Project from 14th to 27th as a participant and witness to the Vagina Monologues alongside Rekha Kurup, my teacher, my sister, the founder of She Stands Tall Project.
When you hear the word “Vagina”, what is your immediate bodily reaction?
What is the Vagina to you?
How do you see the Vagina?
How do you feel towards the Vagina?
What is your relationship with the Vagina?
How do you show up in relationship with the Vagina?
How do you address the Vagina?
What words do you know in your own language that refer to Vagina?
When we think of Vaginas, often the following come to mind: child bearing, pregnancy, menstruation, intercourse, rape, violation, shame, guilt, confusion, unclear, not-to talk about and much more. We are few to know and understand that the wellbeing and health of any woman depends on her vagina. When we utter the word Vagina, shame, guilt, confusion, fear, dis-ease, dis-comfort show up for many women. We often hear “down-there” instead of my vagina.
For many women, we are veiled from the fact that our vagina like the rest of our body has it’s own ecosystem, an intelligent system with it’s balancing, connecting, protecting, repairing and response mechanisms. Any imbalance in any part of our body impacts our vagina’s ecosystem and any movements in our vagina’s ecosystem impacts the rest of our body. An intelligent interconnected system always in conversing and relating.
A woman’s Vagina’s ecosystem is nature’s ecosystem clocked in and embodied in her body. What happens in nature, what moves, what dies, what birth, what lives and cycles in nature, moves, dies, birth, lives and cycles equally in my vagina’s ecosystem. Yet Nature has been hijacked, taken for granted, abused for years now and human have been trying to control Nature’s cycles for years.
In the women spirituality path, we say “what happens in nature gets imprinted directly onto women’s bodies at all levels.” Water and earth elements are said to be closely linked to a woman’s vagina.
Pause to look around you, what are the immediate states of earth and water in your current space?
What do you gather as information?
What are the states of water and earth in your body?
Earth is the house of water. Earth holds water. A woman’s vagina is a container, that holds, moves, evolves, nurtures, births, takes, gives, receives, allows and nourishes. Whenever water run dies, earth’s fertility is impacted and so does the fertility of women in that place. Wherever the natural flow of water has been stagnated and polluted, we see the direct impact on women’s bodies.
Here are some facts
“52% of the world’s agricultural soils are already degraded. By 2050, 90% of the earth soil could be degraded. - UNCCD 2020”
“We have only 60years of soil left. -UN FAO”
“The average woman in rural Africa walks 6 kilometers every day to haul 40 pounds of water.
Every day, more than 800 children under 5 die from diarrhea caused by contaminated water, poor sanitation, and unsafe hygiene practices. – World Vision”
Pause and look around you
What are the impacts of wars fought on the African continent?
What are the impacts on women’s bodies and health?
What are the major challenges that women and children face?
What are the major health issues that woman face?
What is the current state of desertification and water shortage?
Scanning history, we uncover how wars have been fought and are still being fought over land and water. Those directly impacted and mutilated are women’s and children’s bodies.
Both water and earth are elements that have been held as assets to be vanquished and today, we live in such a world where earth and water have been commodified.
These movements have specific ramifications for women on the physical, mental, emotional, psychological, energetic and spiritual planes. Women are the water bearers on earth, the child bearers. A child within the mother’s womb is held, nurtured and nourished just as earth holds water and nurtures and nourishes us. These movements will have devastating impacts on women’s health on the longer term.
Child bearing, birthing, pregnancy, menstrual health, intercourse, vaginal heath and more. I wonder how all these movements have become a tedious journey for women across the globe.
This is what happens when women’s bodies are no more held and revered as sacred gateway to life, to pleasure, to death, to nature.
When I pause to listen and to become present to my vagina, water and flows are what I hear. I have suffered for years with all sort of unexplained dis-ease and diseases and imbalances and through it all, my body has intelligently been working hard to stay afloat to stay in balance through the imbalances.
Pause and listen
What do you hear?
I sit in conversation and circles with women, it is heart aching to hear the stories and lives of pain, of dis-eases, diseases, imbalances connected to the vaginal health and relating.
“Life gathers around water and water creates the circumstances for life to gather. Human, plant and animal life seek out water. Without water living things die. Over time water can change everything, while water itself is the ultimate “shape shifter” in its varying forms of vapor, liquid, and ice. Water is visible and invisible. It moves in all directions around the globe— north, south, east, west—through the atmosphere and beyond the planet into the universe.” Women, Water and the Reclamation of the Feminine, Wagadu, Volume 3, Spring 2006
While humans have moved away from earth- centered practices, we are never in disconnection from earth, from the feminine. We are numbed to the earth and her whispers and her echoes. Through trauma lenses, we see that there is hope, there is a call to return to our nature and to nature’s ecosystem embodied in our bodies.
Writing these words has softened and humbled me, I know little and yet I know mountains if only I pause to listen. The outer labia of my vagina has moved through this write up and as I reach the end, there is warmth building up inside and emanating outside. I am sitting here in trust of my ecosystem.
I am breathing here in acknowledgement that as women tune into the embodied nature’s ecosystem, we shall return to the beginning, to nature and this will ease the frozenness of trauma, this will bring to revive the earth- centered heart that leads at the core of creations.
Link to the Vagina Monologues hosted by the She Stands Tall Project
If you have reached so far, then join us on Facebook Livestream on the She Stands Tall Project from 6.30pm to 7.30pm IST / 5pm to 6pm Mauritian time till 27th Feb for the Vagina Monologues.
Love from my heart to yours
Love from my body to yours
Love from my vagina to you
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TO EXPERIENCE FRUSTRATIONS IN RELATING WITH OUR PARENTS
|MY WORDS ARE AN INVITATION. I HAVE TAKEN A SIMPLISTIC APPROACH TO A HIGHLY COMPLEX DYNAMIC. HOWEVER, THERE ARE ELEMENTS WORTH REFLECTING ON AND PONDERING WHILE ALLOWING SELF TO SEE,FEEL, HEAR AND WITNESS THE WORLD THROUGH NEW EYES|
These words are for young adults (15 to 30yrs or , however you define and identify young adults) and all of us and especially for those young women who reach out for coaching and circles and aching to be understood for their choices.
Experiencing frustration in our relationships with our parents is a good sign. Here’s why.
If you have these happy merry-jolly engagements with your parents with little if not, no disagreements, misunderstandings, diverging views and opinions, chances are that either one of the parties concerned is in full submitting/fawning/attaching or the dynamics not matter how healthy and/or unhealthy are between you and your parents are serving you both or you are probably relating with parents who have been and are doing their inner works while showing up to be supported and to support you.
Truth is, most of us, come from families where our parents did their best with their inherited trauma and we are surviving with our share of attachment wounds, trauma, unmet needs spilling into anxiety, panic attacks and much more. we grew up believing we have a personality, while in truth we grew up adapting in life through our survival strategies.
Whatever, whoever, whyever, wherever, whenever, you define, you experience, you mean, you see, you feel and you hear frustration, frustration is not a bad thing, nor is it a dysfunction to be fixed.
Babies get frustrated when they are trying to reach for something and someone blocks their way, they cry out of exasperation, yet they keep trying. Little ones get frustrated when they want that extra cookie or piece of chocolate and are met by a “no” from caregivers/ parents. This is telling that there is a movement of affirming and moving towards what I want as young as we are.
We, adults get frustrated when we are trying hard to reach that milestone and it seems to be taking forever.
As we age and we begin to question “What do I want? What is my purpose? What ignites me from within? Where do I want to focus my energy and resources on for the coming years?”
We are many who will meet and be met with disapproval, disagreements, misunderstandings, arguments, fear to act, fear to speak up, anxiety with our parents because of our choices.
These are good signs. These are signs of growing up. These are signs of movements in the happening. I believe, it is crucial to check “what is fueling my choices?”
This is the beginning of moving towards our authenticity and in most instances, we will be met with frustrations of not being heard, seen, felt, held, embraced and supported by our parents.
This is what growing up is. This is what maturing into horning one’s power to choose look like.
I am not glorifying this process. I am certainly not saying that all choices we make from an early age, especially in our adult age is fueled by higher levels of thinking and values and a higher vision of life. I am not saying that all choices in early adult age and even later are intelligent and thought through. Instead, I am dis-arming frustration. It is absolutely healthy to experience frustration. It is healthy to want to do otherwise and different. This is what growing up looks like, even if it means that on the way, I may hurt myself and cause irreversible damage.
So if you are experiencing frustrations in relating with your parents and/ or if you as parents are experiencing frustrations in relating with your child/children, then things are unfolding exactly as they have do, growth is happening, choices are being made, differences are rising up.
Elders are blinded to the fact that they cannot determine their child/children’s destiny while children often ache thinking that “if only, they had their parents’ blessings, then life would have been otherwise.”
The issue is not even with experiencing frustration but rather how badly we want to change each other so that life becomes easier.
We want to change our children so that life becomes easier and they follow a path that we believe true as elders.
We want to tweak our parents in such a way that life becomes easier for us and we are not challenged to choose between what they believe as true and what we believe as true.
A huge part of growing up is setting oneself free from hidden loyalties within the family system while listening to one’s calling inside.
If you are experiencing frustration, then pause and breathe through and remind yourself that growth is in the happening.
Ask yourself, what am I willing to give up to follow my calling?
Guilt is part of this process. The moment we start moving away from the norms, guilt is naturally experienced, so hold space for this guilt. It is healthy.
This fear of not belonging comes in the way. We fear if we choose our calling, we will no more belong to those we hold close to our heart.
While we choose our calling, may we be reminded that we belonged, we belong and we will always belong to our family, regardless of their opinions, regardless of what happens.
Growth is a movement of choices, of learning, of expanding, of dying and much more. Growth is about choices, whether consciously or unconsciously. Conscious choices bring a level of deep discomfort especially if we are moving away from hidden loyalties within our close knits.
If you are willing to wait to be approved and validated for your choices, then chances are that you will wait till the end and while waiting, you will be living a life that is not aligned with your calling and your truth.
Holding space for the guilt that is experienced
Holding space for the fear of no more belonging
Holding space for the frustrations experienced.
Holding space for the cycles of life
Love from my heart to yours
Love from my body to yours
Love from my nervous system to yours
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|How did you find your path?|
At least once every week since last year, I receive messages from women asking me,
How did you find your path?
How did you find your spiritual path to healing?
What made you realize that this is your way to go?
These questions are loaded with meanings, beliefs, identities, values, memories, emotions, cognitions and so much more. These questions are personal to and for each woman who reached out, who reaches out and who will reach out.
Hear my answer:
I have no idea, if not only a vague guessing of sight, hearing, feeling and sense of what you mean and how you are using the words “spiritual, spirituality, healing and path.”
I am walking home to myself and it is an everyday movement, sometimes I run, other days I rest and there are moments of freezing and numbing.
What do I mean by “walking home to myself”?
Moving into awareness, acknowledgement and honoring of my beliefs, perceptions, memories, trauma, unmet, my coping, my patterns, my attachment wounds, my relating, my disconnects, my fears, my relationship with my body, my worthiness, my lineage, my parents and so much more.
Moving into creating new memories for my body
Moving into acknowledging, embracing and honoring my experiences, my past, my present and the future yet to unfold.
Moving into intentional choice.
Moving into honoring that which is outside my control
What has triggered my steps home to myself?
I have found my way home to myself in the company of women. I keep finding my way home to myself in the company of women.
I have been sitting in circles with women since 2010, back then, I had no idea what I was opening up to. I was in a movement of showing up while attempting to save the world.
On the way, I learned the gift of receiving from myself, from life and from women that I have been blessed and gifted to circle with.
In the company of women, I have been learning to show up with my tears, my fears, my pain, my dreams, my love, my agony, my relationships, my trauma.
While I write these words, those moments of deep trigger echo as wise messengers. We tend to speak less of triggers that happen within circles of women, those triggering moments potent for growth. In the company of women, I have learned to practice horning my inner voice and my power, the art of boundaries and ownership, especially whenever I have hurled “this situation with this sister is aching me”.
In the company of women, I have been writing new memories of relating while embracing the fragmented parts of myself.
In the company of women, I have been learning a new language of relating to my body, to myself, to my mother, to my father, to my sister, to my brother, to my siblings, to my lineage, to my ancestry, to society, to world and to earth.
In the company of women, I have been learning the art and quality of curiosity towards my fears, my shame, my guilt, my sex, my sexuality, my anxiety, my panic attacks, my doubts, my questions, my relating with men.
In the company of women, my nervous system has been practicing the dance of showing up vulnerably while putting to rest the need to fix, the urge to know, my not-enoughness.
While I practice my work under the certifications that come from the institutions that I have been learned from and in the company of women, I have been practicing living as a student and this is the one the biggest gifts that I have received.
In the company of women, I have been found safety in my body.
In the company of women, I keep walking home to myself.
I believe in the movement of circling with women.
I believe in the healing power when women gather.
I believe in the meeting, embracing, honoring and remembering that is poured unto to us, our societies and our communities when women gather.
I believe in the practice of power ownership and in voicing when women meet, greet and circle together.
I believe that women from my lineage and from yours are dancing, musing, whispering, smiling, laughing, giggling and gossiping as we reach the end of this sharing.
Love from my heart to yours
Love from my womb to you
Love from my body to yours
Love from nervous system to yours
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|I WANT HIM/HER BACK|
|These words are an invitation for you, me and us. These words do not stand as absolute. It is up to each one of us to find what resonate as truth within us.|
I often hear this phrase when clients show up and it’s connected to a relationship that has ended.
“Wanting to be back with the other or wanting the other back.”
However, whatever, whyever we mean, define, see, hear and feel when we utter this phrase “I want him/her back”, there are few important things to bring to light.
The end of a relationship brings forth an opening that oozes vulnerability and it is an uneasy space to be in and to dwell in.
The shared love, the bonding, the relating, the sense of familiarity, the dreams, the plans and so much more come to an end, often smoothly, often abruptly, for either both or one of the partners did not see, hear and feel the signs of the dynamics in operations.
Ending is symbolically, cognitively, energetically, humanly, emotionally and mentally connected to the energy of death.
Death is a process preceded by a phase of decline. There are times when no signs of life emerges from the death phase, a prolonged if not a definite “putting to rest” echoes. This applies equally to relationship.
There are struggles to move into acceptance of the end of this relationship and these struggles are part and parcel of growing and expanding and coming to rest. Through these struggles, we are offered possibilities to move beyond our old ways of being, doing, our habits, patterns and dynamics.
Whenever I hear women say “I want him/her back”, I listen in curiosity and I wonder about the dynamics. I invite you, me and us to this curiosity and wonder along.
“When a relationship ends, we are in truth speaking of an ending of dynamics in operation between two persons. Dynamics that are unseen, yet experienced, felt and heard. When one person withdraws from this relationship, the other is no more met through the old dynamics, no matter how healthy or toxic we may label these dynamics as.
For examples:
I give you all, in so doing, I ensure that you stay close to me, for my fear of being abandoned is secured through this process.
I answer to the call of your needs, for through my giving, I relate to you and hence, I ensure you stay close.
You fight and I dim myself.
I check on you at least 10 times a day and so forth.
This list is endless.
Relationships trigger our unmet, unseen, yet-to-embrace trauma, attachment wounds and so much more. In most cases when the relationship comes to an end , it opens the doors to unmet, unseen, yet-to-embrace trauma, attachment wounds and so much more. The depth of vulnerability is intense. Most of us are unable to hold space for this intensity, for this tenderness, for this aching, for the tears and pains of a younger version of us now visible to us.
So when we run to say “I want him/her back”, we are often attempting to ease this aching, this tenderness away. We are attempting. It is human to attempt.
In most cases, love is not leading when we say “I want him/her back” but rather we are attempting to meet and to be met again through the old dynamics. The old dynamics have broken free, and if we dare stay with the tenderness and aching long enough, they reveal themselves to us and we are then able to receive from ourselves.
Through this process of staying with ourselves and receiving, there is a quality of growth that happens and then we question again “Do I want him/her back?”
The answer may change or remain or evolve and often, if we do meet again as lovers, there is a different quality of meeting and relating, for now , a new set of dynamics is in operation supporting us for higher levels and higher heights.”
Love from my heart to yours
Love from my womb to you
Love from body to yours
Love from my nervous system to yours
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| IMBALANCES and WOMEN |
|I was recently part of a panel discussion on the feminine wisdom and I felt the questions and the answers that emerged are important to be shared with you all. An invitation from my heart to yours.|
IN YOUR WORK WITH WOMEN, WHAT KIND OF IMBALANCES DO YOU MOST COMMONLY ENCOUNTER? WOULD YOU SAY THAT WE ARE TRAPPED IN THE SHADOW SIDES OF THE MASCULINE AND FEMININE ENERGIES? HOW SHOULD ONE ACHIEVE BALANCE?
Framing “Imbalance”
An imbalance is a lack of coordination or relation or relating with the whole or corresponding whole. An imbalance speaks of a lack of coming together of the different parts of one self, with the intention to move towards what one is seeking. Imbalances experienced inside us and outside us through our relationships and our encounters, “this sense of I am struggling to make things happen, things just do not feel right.”
What show up in sessions are symptoms and below is a list:
Emotionalizing | Anxiety | Panic attacks | Angst | Cognitive distortions
“Movement away from” - I know what I don’t want – fire fighting
Coping – moving into dysfunction over the long term | Fix me – fix it
Get done with it | I know what is wrong with me – language of wrongness and rightness
Narratives and stories – this drive to find some stories instead of sitting with the movement
Ungroundedness | Sense of lost – I don’t know where I am going | Who am I ?
I am unable to be around this person or that person
The list is not limited to what I shared.
I invite you to Pause and Breathe
Any sense of sameness?
Reframing Imbalance
Whenever, shadows of our fragmented selves show up, they show up symptomatically in terms of imbalance, that is, lack of coordinating or unrelating within ourself – numbness, break in the flow on information, protection instead of connection.
I believe it is important to say that regardless of our beliefs about the list that I mentioned earlier, the list speaks of intelligence.
An intelligence that serves each one of us at one point, not just in this life, but across generations, time and land.
For example:
Constant scanning the environment for danger – served you , it was purposeful at a point.
The young child learned by adapting because her survival depended on this, so she learned to make herself small, keep her voice down.
Another example, making yourself small served you, it ensured that you belonged to a clan that asked of you to tone it down from a tender age.
However, when the adult’s goal is to soar and to reach greater heights, these will clash with the mechanism and dynamics of “dimming” and symptomatically we will start observing clash of movements in the happening, “a tug of war” between where one is trying to go and what is in operation for years.
Where do we go from here?
This intelligence when it is honored, then we no more see it as imbalance, we see it as what was once needed and now it has to be put to rest.
When imbalance or unrelating is met in this way, we then are able to receive wisdom that will emerge for us.
Resilience is built from such a space, a space of honoring all this is. I believe this the essence of Feminine, we honor all that is, all is part of our experiences.
How does one achieve balance?
Balance is dynamic, this is embodied in nature – what works in summer, does not work in winter. We meet and are met through, within and with balance when we open up to meet through fragmented parts of ourselves that will keep showing up over and over again through those symptoms reactions and beings.
So where do we begin?
When the symptomatic dance of imbalances show up, underneath lurk feelings and emotions that are trapped and these are beyond the narratives and the stories of right and wrong.
We begin by feeling it in the body. By allowing oneself to feel the pain.
This is a process that is not to be rushed through.
Rushing through is a trauma-response. By returning to our closest circle of intimacy inside ourself through our breaths.
Learning to tap into one’s own rhythms – such rhythm is not created or made up or found . it is already within – our breathing, our heart beats
Learning to become aware of even when I say “I am lost”, who is saying this? Because if you are lost, then you are lost, you won’t even be able to say so because you are lost
Becoming present to this Unchanging Core within, who witnesses the Changing aspect of you
See link to a guided exercise to ground and move into the body
As you walk your way to yourself to meet these symptomatic echoes of imbalances, know that you are in a potent space, imbalances show up along with openings to put to rest mechanisms that have served you and to rewire your brain, your nervous system, your internal chemistry, your emotions and so much more.
This is a path to be led, to be lived, to cherished, to heaved through, in, within companionship.
Love from my heart to yours
Love from my womb to you
Love from my body to yours
Love from nervous system to yours
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|ON FEELING STUCK|
|These words are an invitation. Sit with the words, see, feel and hear what show up for you. May you be reminded that our experiences are unique and individual and hence, catch yourself gently through any attempts to compare your life with someone else’s.|
The state of “stuck” is in truth, the meeting with numbed energy within the body.
When women heave how stuck they have been for hours, days, weeks and months, it tells a story of something in active happening.
We tend to believe that being stuck is an inactive process, similar to inertia. However the state of being stuck means that energy has been actively invested to close something or to keep a part shut off or to tie parts together or to freeze part of ourselves and then our body, our system reach a point where the doors break open and the waters flow loose.
It is similar to building a wall right through a river and then the water is held for sometimes, decay may start in that specific place until flood shows up and the waters break loose. When waters break loose, what the putrefaction, the decay, the smell, the sounds will cause dis-ease until ease find it’s rightful place.
We move swiftly around to try to hold it all back together. None of our attempts work.
We try to make sense of it, we think, we logic, we read, we research and we come up theories. We try methods after methods.
In this crazy moving, we miss out on the intelligence that is showing up to us, through us, within us and for us.
What worked at one point, the numbing, the freezing, the shutting off, this intelligence is now kicking, for it knows that it has done it’s share and time for it to be put to rest.
The body is highly informative through this process. As we begin to pause to breathe, we begin to hear.
The one attempt that most women do (I have no doubt that men do alike), we try to find stories to the movements in the body. This intricate intelligent system of ours cannot be understood through stories rather, we meet our bodies and our state of “stuck” through feeling our way through it.
One simple practice when this state of “stuck” is experienced is:
Bring awareness to your heart center, try long and deep inhalation with focus on the center of your chest, without having to touch your body.
If you are unable to feel the center of your chest, then place your palms on the center of your chest and from that space begin to deep your inhalation and exhalation.
As you inhale and exhale, say these movements to yourself “Movement, it is. Movement, it is. Movement, it is.”
This practice though it may seem simplistic, provides the support as one moves to sink into the body. When frozen part are awaken, it asks of us to take ownership of that part of us that is now available to us.
While we speak of trauma and healing, the relating to the body is crucial, the conversation with the body is an integral part of the process.
Love from my heart to yours
Love from my womb to you
Love from my body to yours
Love from my nervous system to yours
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|TO BE ENOUGH AND DO ENOUGH|
I say these words for women, I know that men and however you identify yourself as, you may, we may be many to resonate with these words.
What often emerges out of my conversations with women who are their path of healing or awareness or self-development or wholeness (however, whyever and whatever be the term in use), is the belief and the embodied experience of “I have not done enough. I am not doing enough.”
|PAUSE AND BREATHE| and |ASK|
What is my r current experience of “I have not done enough. I am not doing enough” ?
Where in my life do I experience this sense of “I have not done enough. I am not doing enough” ?
How often do I say these words to yourself “I have not done enough. I am not doing enough” ?
WHEN DOES ONE REACH A POINT OF ENOUGHNESS?
When, where and how does one reach a point where the eyes, the body, the cognition, the entirety begin to experience and witness “I am doing my best. I have done enough.”
This state is reached here now in this moment and nowhere else.
The state of “I am doing my best. I have done enough” is achieved through the qualities of appreciation, acknowledgement, compassion, gratitude and kindness.
I call it a state for it is an embodied experience that merges the body (the internal chemistry, the nervous system), the mind (the thoughts), the heart (the emotions and feelings) and the spirit (that which we do not feel , see and hear, yet hold us within the container of our life experiences).
The act of ongoingly rushing through to fix something that seems broken or unfit or uneasy or uncomfortable is a trauma response or it is what we call a defense response.
We try to fix or mend or shun away or usher off or tuck far because feeling “whatever it is” floods overwhelming more than anything.
|PAUSE AND BREATHE| and |ASK|
What am I engaged in that is moving me towards my vision/goals?
When did I last pause to acknowledge my steps?
What is happening for me here now in this moment?
|PAUSE AND BREATHE|
Take time here now and in coming minutes, hours, days , weeks, months and years to return to the practice of acknowledging your steps.
May you learn for, through and within yourself that the more you practice returning to your body, taking ownership of what,how, why, where, when and who you feel, see,hear and experience, you are stepping up and into your response-ability and this is enough.
The more you move into this rhythms of acknowledging that “I am doing my best. I have done enough”, you will begin to do your part in moving and shifting the collective through the eyes, the bodies, the brains and the nervous systems of acknowledgement, appreciation, compassion, gratitude and kindness.
Wherever, however, whoever, whyever, whenever you are here now in this moment, if breathing is all you are able to do , then know that you are doing a lot already.
Wherever, however, whoever, whyever, whenever you are here now in this moment, if crying is all you are able to do , then know that you are doing a lot already.
Wherever, however, whoever, whyever, whenever you are here now in this moment, if sleeping is all you are able to do , then know that you are doing a lot already.
It begins with acknowledging and appreciating to deepen the path of healing or awareness or self-development or wholeness (however, whyever and whatever be the term in use).
If you are sitting or have been sitting with this sense of “stuck”, pause here now and in coming minutes, hours, days , weeks, months and years to return to the practice of acknowledging your steps.
May I, May You, May We be humbled by, through and within life, to receive from ourselves, to find appreciation, awe, gratitude and kindness within for ourselves.
For as we find it inside, we reverberate it outside.
The reverberations meet generations before , generations in this now and generations yet to come.
This is how we gather the fragmented world inside and outside into wholeness,
One appreciation at a time
One acknowledgement at a time
One breath at a time
One act of compassion at a time
One act of kindness at a time
One act of gratitude at a time
Love from my heart to yours
Love from my womb to you
Love from body to yours
Love from my nervous system to yours
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For You, Sisters
For you sisters,
For you brave ones
For you shy ones
For you doubtful ones
For you scared ones
For you who question
For you unsafe ones
For you who crawl with unsafety
For you who cannot yet trust
For you who feel unworthy
For you lost ones
Cringing on your own
More than ever as you crawl, hawl and agonize in meeting your fragmented selves
May you hear that this is not a walk to happen in solo
There will be days when you will be overtaken, overwhelmed with the depth of that which will show up to you and for you
There will be days when you will wonder whether there is an end to the intensity being experienced
There will be days when you will sit in the eye of the storm, utter silence
There will be dead days
There will be birthing days
There will be nuanced days
However your days, may you dare to risk to reach out
May you dare to tend your hands and arms wide open
Through this risking, someone or something will show up
Shame has to be brought to light
Shame has to be met face to face, heart to heart
Shame of what you feel, experience, think, see and believe
Through, within and in this meeting of Shame, you will be met in grace and glory
Walking the path of re-claiming one’s authentic self is not a solo journey
This walk of safety finds it’s roots within the safety nest of a community of women and men
We cannot regulate on our own unless we spend enough time in the safe company of fellows
We cannot move back to our grounded center unless we spend enough time in the safe company of fellows
Our bodies cannot feel safe on their own unless we open and receive and give from a space of safety through, with, and within other bodies
This is the beauty of being born human
We are innately wired up to soothe, to love, to give, to receive, to peace, to pace, to mate, to grace each other
As you cringe, wiggle, crawl, agonize, cry, doubt, whoosh , may you dare reach out and allow yourself to be seen, to be witnessed, to held, to embraced, to felt and to heard in all your glory
There is glory in your aching
There is grace in your vulnerability
You are paving a path
You are the epitome of “that which” has been on the wait to be met, held, embraced, seen, felt, heard and kissed
You are “that which” is ripe, ready and willing to be met, held embraced, seen, felt, heard and kissed
I kiss you
I hold you
I hug you
I love you
Love from my heart to yours
Love from my body to yours
Love from my nervous system to yours
|The Best state for yoga, relaxation, meditation, reflection and engagement practice|
The best state for your practice is the state that you are in right here right now.
This is the state to begin from and with.
A state is a mind-body-heart-soul-systemic experience in a moment in time.
Maybe you define your state as anger, irritation, ungroundedness, lack of presence, sadness, boredom, tiredness, anxiety, panic, traumatized, overwhelmed.
However, whyever, wherever, whatever, whoever you define your state as, your state is the place to begin from and with for your practice.
There is no such as thing anger or tiredness or ungroundedness or sadness or grief or anxiety or panic or overwhelming being inappropriate or bad or wrong states to begin from and with.
Infact there is no such thing as bad or wrong or inappropriate or worst state. There is also no such thing as best or good or appropriate or ideal state to begin one’s practice from and with.
Our state has an impact on our ability to open up, to receive and to be moved through the process that our practices lead us on.
The problem is not the state we are experiencing but rather our beliefs, our judgement, our constructed identities connected to our experienced state.
The majority of us, including me ( I do get caught up in the drama at times), believe that certain states are to be avoided at all cost for our practices. For example, anxiety is not welcome in the practice of yoga or resistance and sadness are not welcome in women circles; panic and mental activities are not appropriate and are not welcome in meditation practice.
We unconsciously and/or consciously identify ourselves with our state and from that identification, we judge based on our beliefs around anger, or anxiety or panic or irritation or sadness among others.
I am growing in awareness of how less if not , we hardly speak of such things in yoga classes and other practices on the path of self development and growth.
All states are welcome. Having awareness of the states that we are experiencing is the power owned. What gives rise to conflicts and challenges us are rather our attempts to push over, depress , to suppress, to repress and to bypass our states.
It takes a level of ego-strength, that is, sense of self to move into saying and stating “this is my experience. This is not me but an experience potent with teaching possibilities and growth.”
Regardless of what we experience as states, each state is deserving of our attention, passion, energy, presence, heart, ears and body.
A state comes with deep possibilities to offer us whatever it is that is ripe in the wait to be received.
Our running away, rushing through, pushing away, bypassing, judging , negating is what intensify the experience of discomfort that comes along with the states.
Discomfort has it’s throne amidst our practice within communities. Had it not been for discomfort, we teachers would not exist, we would not be being and doing that which we are being and doing. none of us would exist, growth happens through deep discomfort.
I believe it takes teachers, circle holders, facilitators, leaders, members and fellow humans to say to oneself and to each other “ I am safe to experience whatever it is in this body, you are safe to experience whatever it is in this body, they are safe to experience whatever it is in this body and we are safe to experience whatever it is in this body.”
If you wonder about the best way to prepare prior to your yoga class or coaching or meditation or circle, prepare by giving due space to your state and if you are struggling to accept your state, then accept this struggle.
Accepting does not mean liking or befriending, it means acknowledging whatever it is that you are experiencing.
Only from that space will you be able to receive fully from yourself and ease from one state into another.
From now onwards, I invite you to bring your state, your discomfort along on the mat, on your chair, on your couch, side by side as you gaze through the screen, through your eyes, through your heart, through your body, through your nervous system ,through your entirety connecting with teachers, voices, words, seers, fellows, lovers, communities, breathe and heave along, for all belong and all are held.
Love from my heart to yours
Love from my body to yours
Love from my nervous system to yours
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