Clients who sign up for preliminary sessions leading to coaching journeys often ask this question,
“What is intention setting?”
Intention setting is getting clear on “what you want”.
Intention setting is making a consciousness grounded choice on where you will be focusing your energy onwards for a near future, mid-term future and long term future.
Stating what you want is different from saying “for what I want to happen, he has to change, she has to go, they have to stop controlling me, my boss has to change his/her attitude, the world has to change, society has to accept me, my mother has to stop nagging me and this list is endless.”
|Conditions|
This is not intention setting; this is controlling everything in your life.
Intention setting is as simple as it sounds, “clarity on what you want”.
Intention setting lies at the core of any coaching conversation.
Why so?
Not deciding on what we want to focus our energy on in a session gets us to dance, to swirl, run and roam aimlessly.
|Pause |Imagine|
|Run| Swirl| Dance|
|Roam Aimlessly|
This running, swirling, dancing and aimless roaming, opening doors and never closing the ones that have served, our energy goes in all directions and we are left drained instead of energized and focused.
This is a cycle that most of us are engaged in our everyday life until we decide to pause and start dwelling on what we truly deeply want.
Focus is about directing energy and when energy is directed intentionally, one starts playing an active role in shaping oneself and one’s world.
For most of us, in the beginning we are unable to state clearly what we want and one of the reason is we have been wired internally for years to flood energy in all directions that pausing to nail one specific suddenly presents confusion, unclear and threat to the internal world where energy has been flooding in all directions instead of on specifics.
We have been training ourselves to roam in all directions.
Can we learn to live intentionally?
|Absolutely Yes|
Where to start?
In many instances, having a grounded conversation with a coach, a facilitator supports in bringing clarity on our inner strategies, beliefs, agreements, values and much more. The act of being heard and being mirrored back by and through someone else brings a wealth of information about ourselves that support us in gaining clarity on what we want.
Self-help books, podcasts and intention setting exercises are equally helpful and purposeful.
Whenever you are, whether you are sitting, or standing, whether you are in hope or in despair, whether you are seeking or you are confused, whatever it is, if you have reached so far, know that these words were meant for you.
Pause and ask yourself this one question
“What do I want?”
And allow yourself to be moved to moments of epiphany unfolding visions of whatever it is that you want and for this to happen, you will have to stop roaming aimlessly.
Remember this is just the initial step, the rest follows through and within. In coming weeks, I will talk more about it.
Love from my heart to yours
Megha Venketasamy
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